Whats good for the goose …

I think it’s fair to say that men have a reputation for being more promiscuous than women. It would be logical to assume this is true when you look at the consequences: whilst we can all contract STIs, men can’t get pregnant and are far less likely to be the victims of sexual assault.

But I have always had a problem with this equation, purely on grounds of mathematics.

By definition, for a man to be promiscuous, he needs the participation of others. Granted that could mean other men, and whilst an esimated 2% – 13% of men have had some sort of homosexual encounter, unless 13% of men are having 87% of the fun, this does not support the argument. Equally the other participants could be sex professionals and research suggests about 15% of men have paid for sex at some point: one would assume that most women engaged in prostitution have fucked considerably more people than their clients have, so this too could skew the figures, but I don’t believe significantly.

The reality is that most poeple have straight sex and don’t pay for it, which leads me to my theory: either men and women are equally promiscuous, or those women that are sleeping around are on average more generous with their favours than men.

19 Responses to “Whats good for the goose …”

  1. Yes! I’m glad it’s not just me who argues this. Then women fuck women too, so that can counterbalance. And then theres the virgins! I know at least 3 men who aren’t getting any at all compared to my erm, actions. Either I’m screwing enough for all the women, or the men aren’t as good as they think

  2. Everybody wants it. Men, women, farm animals.
    I’ve been missing you AM!


  3. I think the ratio of monogamous vs. promiscuous is about the the same in women and men!

  4. No one can fuck by themselves!

  5. Good insight, Accidental. I don’t know. I know people on both sides that fuck around a lot. I think it all depends. But I will say that I think it’s easier for us girls. I don’t know any chick who goes out, thinking I want to get laid, and ends up coming home alone. But I’ve been out with the boys and see it happen quite often…

    • I’d go as far as to say that a woman almost never goes out and fails to get laid. She chooses not to.
      She might fail to find someone she wants to fuck, but that’s a different matter.

  6. Gillian Colbert Says:

    Fucking is fucking … the rest is just bullshit. One or 200 equates to the same thing … you just got fucked.


    • Not sure how to respond to that.

    • Gillian Colbert Says:

      LOL … sorry, bad morning. My point is that it’s all relative. To the man who has fucked 300 women, a woman who has only fucked 30 men is chaste.

      Conversely, a man who has had 5 lovers might thing a woman with 10 has gone too far.


    • I thought that didn’t sound like your normal chirpy self. đŸ˜‰
      Agree entirely. But I was thinking more about the perception that men are more promiscuous than women. In general terms. Crass, over generalised, unscientific terms.

    • Gillian Colbert Says:

      Oh, I agree your point was well made.

  7. […] Why it is extremely stupid to assume that men are somehow more promiscuous than women. Great post but it’s kind of sad that such obvious things still need to be pointed out to people. […]

  8. Maybe it’s just where I live — in the chemical/oil patch of South Louisiana — but I think men are more promiscuous than women if not infinitely so. Where does one get the women for these men — (a) with money and (b) women who’ve been taught extreme compliance since childhood will feel compelled to accept invitations.

    It seems to be part of Christianity, too. I’m middle aged and would rate myself B in looks but married men come on to me all the time saying that since I’m not Christian (don’t have God watching) and not married (no husband to object), I ought to be available. They do not seem to realize that I would also have to be interested in them and in what they are offering.

    So what I’m taking away from this is that all the men, married and single, are sleeping around and all the single women are sleeping with all of them. The only ones not are the married (except for those also cheating), the lesbians, and a few odd ones like me who only take on single ones that we actually like. That is why some women have a real reputation.

    I’m not saying this is a good situation, just saying it’s a situation in this very conservative culture.

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