Now that’s what I call porn!

Two weeks ago my Wife suggested it might be worth us seeing a sex therapist. I’m all in favour of that for several reasons:

  1. Sexually, as with various other things, we come from opposite ends of the spectrum, and we either don’t try to address that, or fail in doing so.
  2. Without being unkind, I genuinely think my Wife has some psycho-sexual issues She needs help with.
    • She has referred to Herself as sexually repressed in the past.
    • She invariably doesn’t like me touching Her pussy, and is uncomfortable with me going down on Her. (Which is a pity, because I’ve been told I’m really good at it … and I love it!!!)
    • She wasn’t comfortable wearing the really elegant, sexy underwear I bought Her for Xmas because She doesn’t want to be objectified by Her husband.
  3. It’s entirely possible I have psycho-sexual issues of my own (who knows?!), and Freud would probably cum in his pants at the thought of analysing me.
  4. I’d like Her to know more about what I like sexually – porn, rubber, sex toys, pegging etc – but I have no idea how to start such conversations and am very wary of where they might lead.
  5. After more than a decade, I still don’t really know what She likes sexually, and I have no idea how to start that conversation either.

Focusing on Point #4 for a moment, I’d like my Wife to know I like porn. And I’d like Her to be OK with that. It would be even better if we could comfortably watch some together, and even better if She got turned on by it. I’m quite probably deluding myself if I think this will ever happen, but considering I’d really like Her to be OK with me liking porn, I would at least like Her to see some porn that is properly female friendly.

Back in Dirty Movies I asked for recommendations for both erotic mainstream movies and skin flicks for the girls. I got some good suggestions for the former, but the well seemed dry when it came to porn that wouldn’t offend a feminist.

In my search for porn made by women for women, I’ve looked at the websites of Anna Span, and Petra Joy – both female porn directors. Whilst I enjoyed watching the freebies, and got a serious boner in the process, I can’t help feeling they’re still too much like porn has always been – cheap, fake and male-centric.

Somehow I ended up looking at pornos that are meant to be high quality films, like Kaizen XXX. Whilst I enjoyed watching the freebies, and got a serious boner in the process, I can’t help feeling they’re still too much like porn has always been – cheap, fake and male-centric.

Feeling there was a bit of a theme emerging – old skool porn trying to pretend it’s something it’s not – I was getting a little frustrated.

But then someone suggested Erika Lust.
FUCK !!!
ME!!!
SIDEWAYS !!!
THIS !!!
IS !!!
GOOD !!!

If you’ve ever sat there with your pants(UK) round your ankles, and your fingers wrapped around / stuffed inside your genitals, thinking Yeah it’s horny, and it’s explicit, and it’s turning me on, and I hope I’m not going to stain the sofa with all these juices, but that camera angle is shocking, big tits, blonde hair and a shaved minge don’t make you an actress, and why do all porn sets have bare brick walls? Well this is the porn for you!

Assuming the trailers are indeed a fair representation of Erika’s actual full length films, and those show more cock, cunt and cum, these rock!
They’re beautifully shot with real production standards. Lighting, sets, costumes, all look as though someone knows how to make a film and knows it takes money.

Not only that, the sex is convincing, as long as you accept that it’s all fantasy. The women aren’t getting slapped across the bum every 5 seconds, cocks aren’t getting spat on, faces aren’t getting spatterd with jizz, and the actors aren’t forcing out lines like suck it like a slut or fuck me in the arse big boy.It’s sexy. It’s sensual. It’s erotic. It’s grown-up.
It’s the porn I’ve wished someone would make for years.

And if I can at least get my Wife to have even the faintest interest in watching Her first ever dirty movie, I shall struggle not to order a whole damned box set!

8 Responses to “Now that’s what I call porn!”

  1. We really are gluttons AM. I think I’ll check out Erika Lust, although I’m not really a big porn fan. Sounds beautiful.

    Bisous,
    Dawn

  2. I just watched “handcuffs” – very sexy kind of porn – “Porn has such a derogatory stigma – I would call this film Erotica. Thanks, I’ll check out the others. Great find AM

    • From what I’ve seen of the Lust shorts and read of the longer films, Handcuffs us pretty tame. I’m gagging to to have some expendable income and order something more explicit.

    • It was tame, and thats probably why it’s free but the feel of it was very nice, no? Like you said I think- the production of it makes a difference and that people look like they’re actually into it – not trying to get a money shot or just boob shake – and please – cock shots are key. ok gotta go or I’ll be distracted too much.

  3. Dear A.M.,
    Thanks for the movie leads will definitely check them out.

  4. I think you talked about her hormone levels once. Was there a conclusion to that topic? How is she about fear of contraception failure, and anxiety about her child hearing her? Is she able to relax fully in general?

    Sorry for the questions. I am getting back to reading blogs after a hiatus and I want to have her life sorted out a bit in my head again.

    Oh, your post about her clitoris being so sensitive was very interesting and such an insightful analysis. I can’t hold myself back from wanting to give you a gold star for that.

    • I can’t recall discussion of Her hormones I’m afraid. My guess is I was just referring to the hormone rush of orgasms, but feel free to remind me what I said at the time.

      Nothing has suggested to me that She’s inordinately concerned about contraception or being overheard.

      I think my clit theory was bourn out yesterday, and as limited as my knowledge of such things is, I can’t help feel this is all seated in Her attitudes to sex and Her relationship with Her own body. And I’m afraid to say I see no likelihood of any improvement any time soon.

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