Porn therapy: part 1

It’s a long time since the hippies implored us all to run around naked and get in touch with our spirit wolf, tree, or cloud. With the rise of the mindfulness movement in the past few years, we are again being encouraged to seek out inner calm. In the UK at least, this has resulted in a plethora of colouring for adults books adorning high street shelves with subjects including

wolves, trees, clouds, abstract geometric shapes, fairies, Star Wars, B-list celebs …. and thankfully porn.

This is, of course, nothing new. Around the same time as the hippies were espousing free love, feminism was on the rise, with (please correct me if this is apocryphal) Germaine Greer, in her book The Female Eunuch, urging women to squat over mirrors and get to know their cunts.  A couple of years later the artist Tee Corinne’s feminist classic,  The Cunt Coloring Book was published.

According to Corinne “reclaiming labial imagery was a route to claiming personal power for women.” So more about emancipation than the theraputic nature of colouring in.

I was reminded of this book as I was drawing porn (more of that when Porn Therapy, Part 2 is published) and revisited the copy residing on my computer. I had forgotten that before someone had scanned the original, a handful of the drawings had been badly coloured in. Because I sometimes have too much time on my hands it seemed the natural thing to do to restore the images to a colour-in-able state. As I did so, I was struck by two things: firstly the assertion in the books notes that these are drawings of real women’s cunts and secondly the wonderful variety of shapes cunts come in.

A frequent criticism of modern porn is that they engender a belief that cunts should look a certain way, and there are claims that this in turn has led to plastic surgeons increasingly offering labiaplasty. The most troubling stories in the mainstream UK media have claimed an increase in teenagers seeking such surgery. Even if this is accurate, as a fan of both cunts and porn, I find it baffling – a cunt is a beautiful thing, no matter its shape!

If there is a problem with the perception of what a cunt should look like, it is, as Bert Herrington said in his pragmatic article Common Sense and Porn (Psychology Today Feb 03, 2014) …

Learning about sex by watching porn is like learning to shoot a gun from watching Bruce Willis movies. Both are fantasy-based entertainment, and by following either one, somebody’s bound to get hurt.

There have been several bloggers I have followed who have either published naked selfies of themselves or sent me them privately, and who retained a little modesty with the excuse that they thought their cunts were too ugly to share photographs. Despite my protestations, I could not sway them from this thinking. Having reacquainted myself with the Cunt Colouring Book, I would urge them to download this little gem, and do a little therapeutic colouring. Moreover, I wonder, when the received wisdom that kids are growing up with distorted ideas about what genitalia should look like, whether The Cunt Colouring Book should actually be adopted as a sex education text book.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: