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The rise and fall of eyebrows

Posted in Fetishwear, Fixing a broken marriage, Kirsty, Parenting, Porn, Sex therapy, Sexual politics, The Red Torsolette, Underwear with tags , , , , on May 24, 2020 by Accidental Masturbator

This post may signal one of the most important moments in both my marriage and this blog. It is therefore not going to be short, Dear Reader. Indeed, it feels almost like a transcription of an entire 70min counselling session AND a whole load of analysis and back story. As we’re all in lock-down, I’ll assume you have time to read it … but you might want to pour yourself a very large glass of wine first.
Right, here we go …

My latest individual counselling session with Kirsty started with Continue reading

Hey look! There’s a bloody great elephant in the room.

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Kirsty, Sex therapy with tags , , , , on May 14, 2020 by Accidental Masturbator

Finally! 18yrs after We first got together, 16yrs after I moved in with my Wife-to-be, 14yrs after We bought a house together, 13yrs after We got married, 8½yrs since I decided to try to reinvigorate our flagging sex life, over 900 blog posts since my Wife happily accepted The Infamous Red Lingerie, 6½yrs since She rejected The Classy Blue Lingerie, getting on for 3 years since We last fucked, 2½yrs after I moved out of Her bedroom, something like 45hrs and 4 different counsellors between us, and finally Continue reading

Dr Ruth asks …

Posted in Dr Ruth, Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , on June 26, 2019 by Accidental Masturbator

In just a few weeks time, my Wife and I will be sitting down for several days with Dr Ruth. [Ed. She’s not the real Dr Ruth*, but she seems to have a similar air about her. Or maybe that’s just AM’s hope.] There was a bit of to-ing and fro-ing as dates were sorted out, but it’s in the diary now and the deposit is paid.

We even have a Continue reading

Thanks … but no thanks.

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , on December 26, 2018 by Accidental Masturbator

We resolved to try make-up sex a few years ago. It didn’t work. I think we fucked once and then retreated to opposite sides of the bed for weeks or months. I suspect that neither of Us is good enough at letting go of an argument and the hurt that goes with it, and there will always be some remaining bitterness that will stand in the way of remedial coitus.

However, what does nudge Us slightly together is a Continue reading

Bad ideas – 1 : Her ultimatum

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , on September 28, 2018 by Accidental Masturbator

I’m full of great ideas.
Bullshit!
I’m full of ideas.
Better.
I’m full of shit ideas.
That’s more like it.

As much as I want to let go of caring, as much as I want to just be ok that the sexlife-medics are packing up the defibrillator and calling it, neither a morning nor a night passes without me musing on the deceased, and wondering if there might be some hope of necromancy.

My latest idea

A couple of moths ago, I had a Continue reading

Review

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Random stuff about sex, Sex therapy with tags , , , , , , , , on March 23, 2018 by Accidental Masturbator

I’d had a shit morning.
Life on the front line of being a grownup had seen fit to give me two good kicks before We left the house. The consequence, I could so easily have pulled out of going to our therapy session today. It even went through my mind to get there and then excuse myself, leaving my Wife to talk to Sue on Her own.
But I didn’t.
Perhaps that would have taken more spine than I could muster.

Sue: You’ve been away. How was that?
Her: It started well on the first day. The next couple were more difficult, without us talking a great deal.
Sue turned to me …
Sue: How do you feel it went.
Me: It was Continue reading

Pt 3: You’re an arsehole

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , , , on March 19, 2018 by Accidental Masturbator

Her: How are you doing?
Saturday morning. I’d been up licking my wounds in the kitchen for a couple of hours by the time She came down for breakfast.
Me: Probably no better than you. Sorry.
Acknowledgement from Her.
Me: I wish I hadn’t said it. I’m worried about Continue reading

Aftermath #4

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , , , on February 24, 2018 by Accidental Masturbator

On my way home after Session #4, I picked up a bottle of gin to soothe my wounds.
By the time my Wife got home from work that evening I’d sunk most of it.
After supper We talked.

Unfortunately I was sufficiently pissed that I can’t remember much of what was said. But with inhibitions well soaked, I spelt out some of what I felt needed addressing.

• I feel that She is failing to recognise that Continue reading

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