Archive for the Underwear Category

Keeping a secret

Posted in Sexual politics, Underwear with tags , , , , on June 19, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

Received wisdom would have us believe size isn’t important. Obviously not all women agree – some like big, and possibly even more like small. But whatever your preference

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Collar and cuffs

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Parentiing and sex, The Red Torsolette, Underwear with tags , , on June 12, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

We were heading out to a big family get-together; the sort where smart dress was de rigueur. I couldn’t help notice that amongst the clothes She’d laid out on the bed were The Infamous Red Bra and Panties. Conspicuously, although there was also a suspended belt, it wasn’t the one that matched.

As my Wife was getting dressed, and started to put Her blouse on, our youngest walked into the room and offered some advice:

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Probably not.

Posted in Underwear with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 10, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

As you know, Dear Reader, I’m a bit of an underwear junkie. My favorite brand these days is Ergowear, and as with the way online shopping, I get regular promotional emails from them.
[NB I’m not remotely connected with the company, and I don’t get anything  from them for plugging them.]

One of the most recent was titled 10 Signs Your Underwear Needs an Upgrade. An interesting presumption, I though, but I read on … Continue reading

Imelda who?

Posted in Sexual politics, Underwear with tags , , , , on January 14, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

The Xmas holidays are over, so I’m back to doing the school run, and it got me thinking: stereotypically, women, especially stereotypical school moms, are stereotypically renowned for getting off on shopping. Stereotypically, that is often for shoes.

Stereotypes exist for a reason – there’s frequently a degree of truth in them. I believe the received wisdom is, in the case of shoes, that it’s a form of self validation. Although it is generally unacceptable to say so, unless you’re careful, being a Continue reading

The first rule

Posted in Fetishwear, Fixing a broken marriage, Underwear on October 18, 2016 by Accidental Masturbator

Over the weekend, I couldn’t help but think about my underwear drawer. (And of other things.) I veered from one frame of mind to another.
Initially I wished I hadn’t done it.
Then reigned that back in to just that I hadn’t been so obvious.
At some point I thought Hell, I’m up for this. I can do the conversation: “Yes Honey, Continue reading

Of closets and drawers and subtlety

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Underwear with tags , , , , on October 14, 2016 by Accidental Masturbator

In the  … oh, how many years has it been Dear Reader? … 4 years? … 5 years? … since I became a sex blogger, how often have you told me I need to be open with my Wife about how much I need sex in my life? How often have you (rightly) lectured me on why I’m being unfair to both Her and myself? How often have you told me I should tell Her about my love of kink? How often, that I should come out of my own personal, self-destructive closet?
Far too often!

I’m not one for confrontation – the though of telling my Wife I’m a kinky pervert and celibacy erodes both me and our relationship a bit more every day is probably the one thing that actually terrifies me.
So I haven’t.
Fuck knows, on one level, I’d dearly love to have that conversation, but the prospect of how it might end is the thing that stops me even starting the conversation.
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Win some, loose some

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Underwear with tags , on February 3, 2016 by Accidental Masturbator

Whilst there were a couple of militaristic analogies drawn in Black (lace) ops and Enemy (panty) lines, it was not with a combative mindset that I embarked on my destructive subterfuge. My intentions were more catalytic than combative.

I hoped that hastening the demise of Continue reading

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