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Homework

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , , , , on December 27, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

At the end of our first therapy session We were sent away with 3 bits of homework.

  1. Say something positive and affirming to each other once each day.
  2. Try a 5 Languages of Love online quiz, because usually people give what they want to get back, and it’s useful to understand how we communicate affection.
  3. And to write three lists of threes:
    • 3 things we want to keep
    • 3 things we want to discard
    • 3 things we want to introduce

We conspicuously Continue reading

Here We go again

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , , , , , , , on December 21, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

Six years. Would you believe it, Dear Reader? Last week represented six years since I started this blog. Having looked back at how it has told the story of much of Our Dysfunction, I’m surprised.
On the one hand, it was when I resolved to try to resucitate our flagging sex life, though I don’t really remember what had led up to that in any detail.
It was also when my Wife willingly accepted The Infamous Red Lingerie for Xmas.
And possibly most significantly, it was only a couple of months before we first visited a marriage counsellor.
I honestly can’t get my head around how these things fitted together in such a short period of time.

And here we are again. At our first session with a counsellor. Albeit one that comes from a sex therapy angle.

Sex is Continue reading

Pointless exercise

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , , , on December 7, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

She’s spoken to the counsellors.
Couples are usually seen together. (As I had already understood.)
There is the opportunity for the individuals to speak to a counsellor separately, but for ethical reasons that would be a different counsellor to the one the couple would see together. So as to maintain a balanced discussion.

Well fuck it then.
There’s no Continue reading

Stumbling and struggling

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , , on November 16, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

Me: I did some reading on self-help and had another look at the links on the sex therapy clinic’s website.  I struggled to find much of use.

The best suggestion I found was Continue reading

Never talk to strangers 

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , on November 14, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

She has said before, at least once, probably more than once, that She doesn’t think She could talk to a stranger about sex.

How is it that She can accept an Continue reading

Talk about talk

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , on November 13, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

Several days on, having not Talked, She brough up the subject of Talking. Whether we need to talk about anything? To try self help before we Continue reading

Speak no evil

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Sex therapy with tags , , on November 12, 2017 by Accidental Masturbator

For as long as I can remember, I’ve rehearsed conversations in my head. In almost every case, conversations I’ve never had.
For as long as We have entertained the thought of seeing a counsellor (it’s nearly 6yrs since the first time) I have rehearsed answers in my head to questions they might never ask.

Those questions have been Continue reading

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