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Walk the talk

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage with tags , , , on March 1, 2021 by Accidental Masturbator

[sigh] … where to start … ?

Over the last week or three, I’ve been enjoying writing about just sex. Why wouldn’t I? It’s my favourite subject. I used to like sex, and I like to think I still would, given an opportunity to indulge. But that spectre still lurks.
The two headed monster of Marriage/Divorce.
I haven’t wanted to write about it, but it hasn’t gone away. And it’s clear from the atmosphere at home that it hasn’t gone away.

In the last couple of months, We’ve Continue reading


Posted in Fixing a broken marriage, Kirsty with tags , , , on July 17, 2020 by Accidental Masturbator

It took more than 20 counselling sessions to get to the big stuff.
With two such sessions under our belt, there was perhaps some sense of progress, but my belief that what We respectively want from a marriage may yet prove incompatible, insufficient to sustain Our’s, and divorce may yet be the most logical way forward … this seemed to come as a surprise to my Wife.
We stumbled through the first half of the session, throughout which I knew there was an all too familiar elephant in the room.

Although I know it needs Continue reading

(adendum) Really inconvenient!

Posted in Sex on my own, Sex toys with tags , , , on June 29, 2020 by Accidental Masturbator

[Ed: Unless you want to read the self pityings of a middle aged, over-libidinous man who really ought to be a bit more grateful for just being alive with the prospect of a fully functioning, injury free body just a few patient weeks away, please just pass on by. There are far less self indulgent posts to read out there in the blogosphere today.]

Further to Inconvenient, much to my disappointment and growing frustration, it turns out that fucking a Fleshlight when Continue reading

Never never say never

Posted in Fixing a broken marriage with tags , on September 9, 2019 by Accidental Masturbator

… and amidst Our failing to be unequivocally better at being a coherent Us, something struck me.

On Our last day with Dr Ruth, we touched on the issue of sex. The thundering mammoth in the room. We barely scratched the surface.
No … it was less even that that. We only really acknowledged that there was a surface to be scratched.

On holiday, after the first couple of days, as we bickered on an almost daily basis, I found myself realising Continue reading

Sinful Sunday 410 – Reductio ad absurdum

Posted in Sinful Sunday with tags , , , on February 16, 2019 by Accidental Masturbator

Reductio ad absurdum /rɪˌdʌktɪəʊ ad abˈsəːdəm/ (idiom) : a method of proving the falsity of a premise by showing that its logical consequence is absurd or contradictory.

Literally, it translates as reduce to absurdity.

Sinful Sunday

Reduce to absurdity?

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DLS 19: Defiance

Posted in Dirty Little Secrets, Sex therapy with tags , , , on February 22, 2018 by Accidental Masturbator

There are some things I do, if not entirely, at least partially out of defiance. Fuck the world!!! This is not indicative of maturity, I know, but as a man I’m only expected to have the maturity of a 14yr old … at best.

When I reach for the gin and top up my glass for the third time in an evening, whilst I genuinely like the taste and am far from averse to intoxication, as my Wife does not consume much alcohol, there is a touch of defiance in my imbibing.

When I wank, although I Continue reading

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